“The regret of my life is that I have not said ‘I love you’ often enough.” — Yoko Ono
Before a recent weekend trip to St. Louis with some of my yoga friends, I wrote my husband a love note on a Post It and then stuck it on his side of the mirror in our bathroom. The day after my return, I found the same note waiting for me on the shower door. I decided to keep the love note going and stuck it on his bottle of mouthwash. And then he left it on my magnifying mirror. It became a fun little sticky note game that we played for several days, and it still makes me smile when I think about it.
I didn’t write the note expecting him to write anything back or to turn it into a game (but I’m glad he did). I wrote it because 14 years into our marriage, I really do love him, and I want him to know it, and to feel it. Aside from our Post It game, we send each other some sort of “I Love You” text or GIF almost every day — not so much to make sure we’ve made that declaration yet again, but more like a reminder that while he’s off on a construction site and I’m in my cubicle, we still think about each other. And perhaps more importantly, we each want the other to know it.
Apparently we’re on the right track. Buildyourmarriage.org, lists several reasons why love notes are so important: Writing a note takes time and effort (it does take a moment to find pen and paper); they’re thoughtful (my love notes are for my husband — not the masses); they’re fun to find (who doesn’t love finding a note on the shower door or bottle of mouthwash); and can be delivered creatively (sometimes I leave him a note with a picture on his steering wheel or lunch box).
Telling someone you love them is great, but putting it on paper is even more profound — and feels somewhat flirtatious. Have you written a love note lately?